It’s the end of another year. Thought now would be a good time to share the incomplete blogs I couldn’t quite get my head wrapped around or my thoughts all pulling the same way. Hopefully there’s a nugget or take-a-way for you in them! So, here goes…
“With Age Comes Wisdom”
Those 4 words are only the start of Oscar Wilde’s famous quote; which continues, “but sometimes age comes alone.” Ever wonder why we only use the beginning few words and not the entire quote?
Well, don’t ask me because I don’t have a clue, I just wanted to use his 4 words to grab your attention. Hopefully it worked!
I was wondering though, is it true? Does wisdom really come with age? Can wisdom be distilled from some alternative source? Heck, what is wisdom in the first place and why do ya have to be “old” to possess it?
WISDOM – the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment; the quality of being wise
What relationship is there between “wisdom” and “perspective”? Maybe what we gain is “perspective” and not wisdom?? Ya know. as time passes and we experience more, does that affect or color our views of events in our past??—
“Forgive & Forget”
I’ve been struggling with the concept of “forgiveness” for a decade or more now. I’ve written countless pages of thoughts in journals. I’ve re-read those pages over and over, but haven’t found peace with “forgiveness”
It’s a struggle I must find peace with; I simply must.
Maybe I lack an understanding of what forgiveness is or how it applies specifically to a situation in my life. I don’t know, but it needs to be resolved in my own head.
Let me share the basics – I was hurt, deeply hurt and pretty much “poo-pooed” the hurt; thought it didn’t matter and didn’t affect me. As the years have passed I have become aware that the hurt affected me in ways I could never imagine.
I have spoken to the person and offered my forgiveness, but still feel like I am carrying some sort of guilt – I feel “bad” that I limit the contact and information I share. Obviously, it has affected our relationship; but I feel the need to protect myself – even all these years later.
I guess I’m confused because the individual that caused the hurt does not take responsibility for the hurt…and maybe that’s why I’m grappling with “forgiveness”.
Although I have forgiven the hurt, it’s difficult for me to move forward with a relationship with the person. Heck, maybe it would be better to have no relationship with the person, but then if I have no relationship, have I really forgiven? Yes, I know it “won’t be the same as it was” but…
See my struggle?
Am I mixing my expectations or what I want the resolution to be with the concept of forgiveness or have I really withheld my forgiveness until this reaches a suitable resolve?
Anyway, I have to do what I have to do. I feel like the actions I have taken – limiting contact & information seems to keep the relationship functioning. I guess maybe I just want more – but can’t “do that” until responsibility for causing the hurt is accepted.
So again, have I really forgiven the person if I set these “conditions” or am I simply still protecting myself by taking control of the situation or is it all part of “healing the hurt & me”?
Circles.I feel like I’m going in circles. Time to stop!
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